My husband constantly lies. Sometimes over trivial things and sometimes over major issues. We have been married for 3 years, together for 5 years. About 6 months after we were married he did something that severely broke my trust.
I won’t go into all the details here, but he was emailing and calling another woman. Lied several times when I asked him to quit and kept doing it. Then started doing the same with another woman. To my knowledge he never slept with or even kissed any of these other women. However, my trust is broken and I don’t see regaining it.
Recently, while I was out of town, he told me he went to a friend’s house to hang out. He later admitted, after further questioning, that he went to a bar. Maybe nothing happened at the bar, then why lie about it. Maybe something did happen and that’s why he’s lying. Either way, I’m tired of being the psycho wife that checks the emails and phone. I’m constantly questioning him and I’m worn out.
I know that there is no trust left. The problem is that I still love him and for some reason I am very concerned about where he would go and what he would do if I asked him to leave. I have actually tried to split up with him before and he would not leave the house. We own the house together and he says it is his too and he does not have to leave. I could make the house payment on my own, but he cannot. I cannot afford to pay for an apartment for myself and help him make the house payment. And I know that if I did not help pay, he would get behind on payments. Since my name is on the loan, I of course cannot let that happen. With the market being so bad, there is no way it would sell now. Any advice?